I have been so blessed with Titus 2 women in my life; women who inspire, women who encourage, women whose light reflects onto a God who loves me.
Many of us women have them in our lives, women we look up to and admire; women we want to be like “when we grow up”.
There are a few women in my life who I feel are my Titus 2 women. Some I know personally and some I don’t. They fall into different categories of my life; women from church, friends, fellow homeschooling moms, authors, and lately I have added one from an unexpected place on Instagram. All of these women inspire and encourage me to be a better friend, teacher, mother, wife…
Something happened recently that made me think deeper about Titus 2 women, to really examine and consider the mission of a Titus 2 woman.
So I went to the Bible. This is what Titus has to say about these women:
“…older women are to show their reverence for God by their behavior. They are not to be gossips or addicted to alcohol, but to be examples of goodness. They should encourage the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible and pure, to manage their households, to be kind, and to submit themselves to their husbands. Otherwise, the word of God may be discredited. Likewise, encourage the younger men to be sensible. Always set an example for others by doing good actions. Teach with integrity and dignity. Use wholesome speech that cannot be condemned. Then any opponent will be ashamed because he cannot say anything bad about us” (Titus 2:3-8).
For me, a Titus 2 woman is someone who carries herself with grace and dignity; especially in difficult situations. She is one who immerses herself in the words of Christ and tries to live them. She is one who is friendly and caring to others and goes out of her way to be kind. She is one who loves without looking for reward or recognition. A Titus 2 woman is willing to share and teach what she knows to others. She is willing to be real and does not pretend to have it all together, allowing others to learn from her mistakes. She is one whom not only inspires, but also encourages. A woman who is not wanting for me to compare myself to her, but encourages me to be unique, to be different, to be myself; to be the person God wants me to be. She empowers others by having them focus their eyes on Christ, not on herself. A Titus 2 woman is not one who encourages me to hold her hand but one who teaches me to hold the hand of Christ; one who empowers me to be a woman who finds her strength in God. A Titus 2 woman is one who shines her light and reflects that light onto Christ.
That is some woman. But we must remember that no one is perfect. I believe Satan tries to work in whatever way he can; often using good things for evil. I must confess that I have found myself making two mistakes in regards to Titus 2 woman. Sometimes I have found myself placing these women on pedestals (pedestals they have not asked and do not want to be on) and admiring them so much, that in doing so, I have taken my eyes off of Christ. Titus 2 woman are not meant to be placed on pedestals and take the place of God in our lives, but to point us to Him. I need to remember they are human just like me. Sometimes they mess up or have bad days. They need grace and forgiveness, they need Christ, just as I do.
At times, I have also made the mistake of comparing myself to the Titus 2 woman in my life and not measuring up. But we were each made to be different. “If the whole body were an eye, where would the hearing be? If the whole were hearing, where would the sense of smell be. But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired. If they were all one member, where would the body be?… (1 Corinthians 12:17-19). God made me to be my own woman, to shine my own light. The role of a Titus 2 woman can be accomplished in a variety of ways.
Even though I am still “in the trenches” with raising my own little’s, I can certainly do my best to be a Titus 2 woman to someone behind or alongside me in the journey of motherhood.
We are all capable of being Titus 2 women to someone whose lives we touch. We all have a light to shine. I love the way that the Message Bible translates this text in Matthew 5:14, 16. “You’re here to be a light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept… By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.”
We must use our lights, not to shine on ourselves, but to reflect that light onto Christ. We are all unique and we are all called to reflect Christ in different ways. You may never know how the words you speak or the things you do may touch someone else. But do know that God can and will use you in reaching others. He has asked us all to be His hands, His feet, His voice, to shine our light for Him, onto Him. That is the kind of light I want to be….The one that shines so brightly that others need to know the source of it.
I urge you to identify and surround yourself with women in your life who don’t just inspire, but also encourage and empower you in Christ. I also encourage you to be a Titus 2 woman, not one day when you “grow up”, but to be one to someone today. Use your light to inspire, to encourage and to empower other women in Christ.