New Years resolutions can be a bit overwhelming and the majority of people (myself included) never stick with them. So last year, I chose a goal word for myself instead. I can’t remember where I first saw this idea (it’s all over the internet), but I love it. It’s one word, Your word, that YOU choose to focus on for the year. I found a great post online that was helpful for me in choosing my word.
The word chosen is usually one that motivates and inspires you. It is a word that encompasses who you want to become. It’s important to remember, if you are a parent, that the word you choose will not only impact you, but your children as well. So, in essence, you are choosing a word for your family. Pray over your word. Allow God to have a voice in the word you choose.
Last year, I chose the word WELL. I wasn’t doing very “well” and I wanted to be able to sing the hymn “It is Well With My Soul” by Horatio Spafford and mean it. This song was sung (beautifully by our Pastor Jon) at my brother’s memorial and I remember sitting in the church pew thinking all was NOT well with my soul. At the beginning of January of last year, I was still feeling “unwell” and I made the decision that WELL would be my word for the year. After many hours spent in prayer, in the Bible, in reading books and in therapy, I can truly say, “It is (now) Well With My Soul”.
This year, I am choosing the word MOLDED. I want God to mold me, to shape me into who He wants me to become. I want to be MOLDED into the likeness of Christ. Ephesians 5:1-2 says this, “Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.”
To become more like Him, I need to “walk in love” and keep my eyes ever on Him. So this year, I am choosing the hymn “Be Thou My Vision” to help keep me focused on my word.
English version by Eleanor Hull, 1912
- Be thou my vision, O Lord of my heart,
- Be all else but naught to me, save that thou art;
- Thou my best thought in the day and the night,
- Both waking and sleeping, thy presence my light.
- Be thou my wisdom, be thou my true word,
- Be thou ever with me, and I with thee Lord;
- Be thou my great Father, and I thy true son;
- Be thou in me dwelling, and I with thee one.
- Be thou my breastplate, my sword for the fight;
- Be thou my whole armour, be thou my true might;
- Be thou my soul’s shelter, be thou my strong tower:
- O raise thou me heavenward, great Power of my power.
- Riches I heed not, nor man’s empty praise:
- Be thou mine inheritance now and always;
- Be thou and thou only the first in my heart;
- O Sovereign of Heaven, my treasure thou art.
- High King of Heaven, thou Heaven’s bright sun,
- O grant me its joys after victory is won!;
- Great heart of my own heart, whatever befall,
- Still be thou my vision, O Ruler of all.
I am not one to make a bunch of changes on January 1 and stick with all of them. I am one who needs gradual change. A change that is incorporated into my life little by little, one day at a time. If I do too much at once, I burn out, shut down, and then resort back to doing what is comfortable and routine.
So how am I going to become MOLDED? I am the type of person who likes to have a plan. I like to have a destination in mind and know how I will get there, step by step. So I made myself a list.
I made broad categories of areas where I felt I needed to be MOLDED in my life and prayed about them. I asked God to guide me in choosing these areas.
Then, under the categories, I listed more specific steps on how I can improve; changes I could make little by little to help me become MOLDED; specific changes I could pray about.
The way it worked out, I have listed 30 steps; so I will only have to make 2-3 changes a month. This is less overwhelming for me. I will write these choices out and stick it on my kitchen window. I spend a LOT of time there doing dishes, so it’s a good spot for me to stick things I need to ponder. I will allow myself an entire month to incorporate these changes into my life. Then the next month, I will incorporate 2-3 more ways I can be MOLDED.
When I feel like I’ve incorporated them into my life, I will cross them off my list. If not, I will add them to the next month, and try again. I will try to remember to allow myself grace when I stumble, fail, backslide, flounder, abort, fizzle… or flop.
Give yourself grace when you fall. The important thing to remember is to try again. You don’t have to wait until next year. Tomorrow is another day to try again. He doesn’t expect instant perfection from us. A slow and gradual change is okay. More than anything, He wants us to admit that we need Him. Pray over your word. Make sure this is something God wants for your life and allow Him to help you. Remember, in our weakness, He is our strength. Walk this year WITH Him.
Choose one word, one word. And let it change you one day at a time, one choice at a time. If you are able, please leave a comment; I would love to hear the word you have chosen.