We are having issues with obedience; and when I say issues, I mean, I tell my kids to do something and often they don’t obey until I say, “If you don’t do… then you will have a consequence.” I’ve never been a believer in counting to ten or three for that matter, but really, what is the difference if they don’t obey until I threaten them with a consequence?
Starting today we are doing things differently. For worship I sat the kids down, opened my Bible concordance and looked up the word “obey”. I found 54 texts. God planted the idea that the kids and I should be studying one verse a day on obedience during our Bible time. My kids are not the only one with an obedience problem, so this will help me as well. This is our plan for how our family will try to remedy our problem with obedience.
1. Learn about obedience by reading books: the who, the what, the why, the how. These are my thoughts so far…
- Who: God, parents, grandparents, respected adults of our choice
- What: Obedience is defined as submitting to a higher call
- Why: We need to obey because we are God’s children and He has asked us to
- How: Immediately, cheerfully, and thoroughly
2. Read one verse a day. This will help us ALL learn more about the who’s, what’s, why’s, and how’s of obeying.
3. Reinforce obedience by providing an immediate consequence. Teaching my kids to obey is one way I obey God; He has asked this of me. This means enforcing immediate obedience without counting or warning of a consequence. The kids agreed with me that receiving a cookie every time they disobeyed wouldn’t help them learn to obey and that having a consequence was the way to help them learn.
4. Pray everyday that God will help us learn the virtue of obedience.
5. Journal every text read with the lesson that we learned.
You are my portion, Lord; I have promised to obey your words. I have sought your face with all my heart; be gracious to me according to your promise. I have considered my ways and have turned my steps to your statutes. I will hasten and not delay to obey your commands. Psalm 119:57-60